12 Ways To Change Your Life From Bitter To Better

12 Ways To Change Your Life From Bitter To Better

Have you ever been in a place in your life where you were just bitter?  It happened to me.


I was divorced and quite discontented with my career.  I was not only discontented with my career, I was bored.  I did boring office work that did not serve me in any fashion. Each day I would feel as if the other shoe was going to drop and many days the other shoe did.  You see, I did not understand the flow of life. I did not understand that you get what you put into this life.  Negative thoughts in creates a negative energy.  Many times we are dealing with depression.  I am not speaking of the severe mental illness that some people are facing daily.  I am speaking about the depression that happens to us when we are frustrated with life, not getting something we want or we are going through a very bad time.


I remember running to therapy and telling the therapist that I needed medication because I am depressed.  I remember being told that I did not need medication.  The depression that I was feeling was from how I was thinking.  I was depressed because of failed relationships and also I was at a dead end job and experiencing financial stress.  The therapist was right! What is making you bitter? What is making you disgruntled?  You have to be honest with yourself and decide, what can I do to change this? Life is ours for the taking.  But we have to face it with joy, pride, positive energy and with great hope.  Here are some tips to assist you:


1.  What is it you are bitter over?  Why do you want it? Would it be good for you if you get it?

2.  Never compare yourself to anyone else.  You are the best you that you can be.  Your life is going how it should go.  If it is not, re-write the script.

3.  What are your passions? Start doing them daily or weekly.

4.  Help someone else.  Stop thinking about yourself.  There is always someone worse off.  Volunteer at a hospital, help an elderly individual.  People out here need you.

5.  Be hopeful that tomorrow will be better.

6.  Put some solutions down on paper to your problems.

7.  Happiness does not revolve around a person or possessions.  It comes from within.

8.  Try not to think that if I don’t have a relationship with this person I can’t be happy. This is an untruth.  No one can save us.

9.  Stay spiritually connected.  Read your Bible (if you are a Christian). Also try to read self-help books and motivational material. – This does wonders.

10.  Get excited that your next day, week, month will be better.  We get what we expect.

11.  Exercise, meditate, take a yoga class.

12 . Journal and write how you want your life to look. Do this daily and weekly.


You are going to go from bitter to better.  I know you can because I did it.  I believe in you.


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Tammi C. Walker
Tammi C. Walker was born and raised in the city of Chicago, Illinois. She is a life coach and owner of Dreams Are A Reality. She also is a certified Personal Fitness Trainer.