What You Allow, Is What Will Continue

What You Allow, Is What Will Continue

Do you ignore the obvious at your own peril? Are you willfully blind? Ignoring your intuition in your personal and professional relationships is unhealthy. Just like traffic signs, ignoring BIG, BOLD and RED intuitive indicators is not good. By ignoring them you will dull your senses, loose yourself, and eventually die a slow death.

If you are unhappy with the way others are treating you, then it may be time for a self-evaluation. This requires that you get to know yourself. Be clear about your core values, expectations and how you want to be treated. This process is important to ensure that you remove negative thoughts and people and attract positive energy into your life.

What you allow… is what will continue! – Unknown!

Negative treatment can come from various areas in your life. Perhaps you are working in a hostile environment, where your boss speaks to you in a condescending manner. Or maybe you’re in an abusive relationship, dealing with bossy friends, disrespectful children or dating someone new.

Maya Angelou said it best, “The first time someone shows you who they are believe them.”

Accept the fact that you do not have the power to change anyone. However, talking to a friend can confirm what you are feeling. Talking it out ensures that you don’t avoid accountability when you have to make tough decisions. You have to show love to yourself first, by teaching people how to treat you with dignity and respect!

Now is the time to take ownership of the role you’ve been playing. You mold others’ behavior when you teach them what you will and will not tolerate. If people continue to treat you poorly, you must determine what you are doing to reinforce the behavior.

Don’t be fooled by thinking that kindness will always overcome the unkind behavior or put the other person in a “good mood.” Your kindness is NOT their Happiness Trigger! As a matter of fact, you are probably reinforcing the mistreatment.

Stop believing unrepentant apologies… If a person’s actions do not align with their words… Listen to their Sermon – They are NOT SORRY!

If you have been a “doormat” for any length of time, you may lack the self-confidence you once had. Spending energy pretending you are happy when you are not, is draining.

It’s time to rediscover yourself and make the intentional decision to rebuild your confidence and to be happy. This is definitely a situation where the Truth will set you free! Free to be yourself, speak truth, and build more genuine and authentic relationships.

12 Suggestions To STOP Mistreatment:

• Create healthy boundaries
• Understand your core values and associate with like-minded people
• Surround yourself with loving people
• Resolve conflicts in a healthy manner
• Renegotiate your relationships
• Be Assertive – Learn to speak up
• Speak Truth! -Don’t say Yes when you really mean No
• Stop people pleasing
• Do not pretend that their behavior is acceptable
• Do not reward the bad behavior with kindness
• Learn from your current situation

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Camille Sheppard-Parrish
Camille Sheppard, PhDc, MBA is a relationship coach and the founder of a Camille Sheppard & Associates, a boutique relationship and life development coaching firm as well as the Successful Women Date Differently Brand and Camille Speaks!