Often times we make up our minds to go after something, but we sabotage ourselves. Instead of doing all we can do to make sure we get it, we do just the opposite of what needs to be done. We will do everything in our power to make sure we don’t get what it is we truly want.
This occurs for many reasons such as wanting to maintain control, low self-esteem, and too much excitement. Self-sabotaging also has roots in fear of the unknown and is mostly a subconscious behavior.
Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it.
- Watch your behavior. First off, it is critical that you observe yourself and learn to recognize your behaviors. You can do this by keeping a journal. Write down each time that you sabotage yourself. Do not leave out any details, include setting, situation, and end result. Do not edit yourself or be too critical, just write it all down.
- Envision success. Remember that Keep success is neither black nor white and can be defined differently from one person to the next. Develop your own definition of success and imagine what it looks and feels like. Start seeing success as part of your future but also remember you may have challenges.
- Let go of perfection. As you visualize success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection? If so, it’s time to realize that nobody is perfect. If you focus on being perfect, then you will not be able to be successful. Perfection does not matter because it does not exist. What matters is that you do your best.
Give yourself permission to anticipate success with excitement. Perhaps you’ve been sending your subconscious the message, “Don’t give me success!” So, let’s put your self-sabotaging behaviors in the past!
Embrace the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful, and then refuse to talk yourself out of going for it. The journey to your ideal life starts now!